Couples Therapy

My couples therapy style is more "action" therapy and less "talk" therapy. I like having a clear plan to address the specific issues each couple present instead of trying to focus solely on feelings, communication skills, or insight. Insight and understanding are important, but they don’t necessarily change behavior.

I like using experiential techniques that make the process more dynamic and less going over the "fight of the week"; it's more about the processes and dynamics that are problematic to the couple. The experiential approach helps the couple find solutions or new ways to approach difficult situations and chronic problems in real time instead of doing the same thing over and over again with the same negative results, or having the same fight over and over again.

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Have questions or feel ready to get started? Reach out using the links below or book your first consultation call. We’ll guide you through the next steps with care and clarity.

  • I am genuinely delighted when I know I will have an opportunity to teach or consult with Lilian. She is a warm, authentic person. She is also a highly experienced, skilled teacher, therapist and consultant. I enthusiastically endorse Lilian!

    —Shawn Criswell, PhD, LPC

  • Lilian’s super power of warmth combined with grit can help a couple break free from old stories and create a new one. She brings this same dynamic energy to her teaching and podcasting. She is an accessible expert and collaborator whose knowing smile lights the path forward.

    —Allison Howe

  • I truly consider Lillian to be one of the best couples therapists in Arizona. She brings an incredibly warm, genuine presence that makes even the most devastating challenges feel resolvable. Her skill, expertise, and personability make her a phenomenal therapist, and working with her is an absolute privilege. This valley is lucky to have such an authentic, effective therapist in its midst.

    —Kathy Gusenkov MS, LMFT 

  • Lilian Borges is a highly skilled therapist who brings a myriad of skills to her private practice. Lilian has always made me feel comfortable even when working on delicate issues. Lilian’s creativity as a clinician has helped me achieve my therapeutic goals. The work I have done with Lilian has been life changing. Her talents using Ericksonian hypnosis are in a class of their own. I recommend Lilian to anyone seeking therapy in a creative and safe environment.

    -Suzan Patalano

  • I’ve been fortunate to have Lilian help me navigate several big life transitions, always with her compassion, creativity, authenticity, and very diverse set of therapeutic skills. What I value most in my work with her is how she has guided me to tap into my inner wisdom and to work with my higher self in very practical ways. This adds a dimension to therapy that goes beyond just problem-solving and situational solutions, although she is great at those things, too! This practice, and the relationship with myself that I’ve developed with her help, is enduring and essential to the trust I feel to move forward in life.

    -Elise B